Questions and answers

Questions and answers

In moments of fear and doubt I look to the heavens for answers. With hands folded or with suffering  faces planted deep into my sweaty anxious palms,  the questions are asked. What, where, when, why, who and how. This is how I start the spiraling down of questions ad infinitum. Yet little did I realize that that it is not the questions that will lead me to the answers. Moreover, it is the answers that are already consciously and unconsciously within me that will reveal the correct questions. I was once told by a friend that it is quality of the questions that will help me improve my life. True. So I started asking these questions. It helped to move forward and understand my choices. I finally came to the epiphany that I should work on this exercise backwards and see the result to explain the choices that I HAD made already to see if these were clear enough questions and answers.

We ask questions to solve the puzzle of love for example. Unfortunately we are asking the questions to derive at the answer that is already known within, it simply needs to be teased out to our conscious state. Most of the time the questions we ask are esoteric and valueless and so these questions from a chaotic imbalanced mind will seldom or perhaps never branch out to the correct questions that are needed to empower your life. So in the case of love.

The answer is LOVE. The questions are WHAT to love, WHERE to offer love, WHEN to offer love, WHY to love someone, WHOM to love, HOW to love. Knowing the answer will lead to even more powerful questions that now stem to another answer that is also known. LOVE EVERYONE ( whom), EVERY TIME ( when), EVERYWHERE (where), LOVING someone means you love yourself ( why)  and so LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY ( this answers the what and how).

The next time you have a 1000 questions on a topic, meditate upon the answer first with out the questions and then with that answer in your minds eye, ask the right questions as above, and you will derive the choices that you need to make to move forward. Try it out with small things and then work it up to bigger concerns in your life. Questions are the tugs of war in your mind, the answers are the already known solutions within your spirit.

Got a question ? Ask your heart for the answers.
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I love you 

When you compare you despair

When you compare you despair

Much of my life I have set myself up to be compared to the bench mark of others. Always compared to others to gain a value of self worth. Compared to other more intellectual kids in school, or other fellow athletes or fellow musicians. Never quite good enough, never quite up to par. Yet whom am I really comparing myself to? Someone else who is just as scared at being compared to someone else as I am to them. Where is the yard stick to measure success, fitness, ethics? Who creates these false measuring tools, and why  are they important? Society creates them, as if you don't have bench marks and notches of success how do you create status? If you have to create status then you create control. If every one is forced into a hierarchy and given their place on the ladder, then I can bench mark my progress in all areas of life from health, to wealth, to intellect to literally everything in my life. It starts when you are young. Conditioning. If you see a little child that is unaware of this process they are totally free and believe everyone is on equal footing and lovable and respected. The moment you introduce " you are better than ...... because of ( fitness, intellectual prowess, parental status etc.) you change the innocence to status and put them on the racing ladder.

No one is saying that we shouldn't have hierarchies. They are important and we need to be able to grow and so the yardstick is formed.  Yet my argument is on the tenant that the yardstick is within and not outside. I choose to excel in my intellect by my choice and not be coaxed by others, I choose to improve my fitness performance for my health status and not to be measured against the world's fastest or strongest man or by a fellow athlete. I choose to improve my financial perch for the sake of serving others and my family,  not because I have been told that if I don't I will not be like my  friend who makes more money than me.

Compare and establish levels of progress, absolutely, but compare to yourself and not to others as this leads to the despair of inadequacy and depression and frustration. Push yourself everyday to become better than who you were the day before. Improve for yourself and not because someone told you that you should be like whomever. Self identity is the biggest motivator in improvement and success.

The world has changed and ascended to a higher dimensional frequency of Oneness. You will find more and more as you awaken that there is less and less need for you to size yourself up to anybody else except yourself. As you continue to improve and become better, your own prowess will be enough to shine and be a beacon unto others to also become more radiant with success and join you in the sun. Lack of comparing will not diminish your abilities to progress, yet it will lighten you up to achieve more as you improve upon yourself every moment of every day.

Be the best version of you and not the shadow of someone else.
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I love you

Success and happiness

Success is getting what you want. 

Happiness is wanting what you get.

Let that sink in for a bit. The mind will always forget the trials and tribulations that you have undergone yet the heart will always remember the feeling of those trials and tribulations. That is the difference between happiness and success.

Success is a notion that is determined by the mind through conditioning by peers and society. Yet true success is seldom achieved if not linked to happiness. They are not mutually exclusive yet only are so depending on how they are obtained. There are not many successful people in any walks of life that are truly happy. This is because their perceived happiness is based solely on the " getting " of what " the mind wanted." You can have all the money in the world to buy everything you have ever wanted, yet this still will not give you joy or peace. Yet on the corollary, you can have nothing and yet be content and happy, as whatever you wanted no matter how basic the desire you get it. 

This is clearly evident in those that continue to get more and more of what they must have or want based on their notion of societal status and position and bragging rights. This is founded by ego. The more they get, the more they want, the more they get what they want the bar standard rises to the next level. The ladder continues up and up with getting what you want and calling it a successful trip. However if you spend the entire time in successful pursuits and missing out on the simplest of things like a hello to a stranger, smelling a flower's fragrance, holding your child in your arms at bedtime, meeting a friend, spending time someone you love, what is the point of getting what you want. Now if the about wants are things that you get, well that is called happiness.

Most successful people have neither the time nor the inclination to slow down long enough to smell the flower or recall the hugs from the children. If you read their biographies, they are filled with "successful stories" but its not what they achieved that you should read, yet what they have omitted to mention, that is to be read. The simplistic things that bring you happiness. They never note that in their books. this does not mean we should give up our ambitions, dreams or goals or careers. Far from it. In fact do more, achieve more, strive more. Yet there will be a time when, you yourself will feel the push for wanting more, and it wont be for success, it will be for happiness. And so the cycle restarts. 

I have been on both sides of this spectrum. I have been fortunate. I have literally bought everything I can think of for hobbies, and useless trophies of apparent success in an effort to fuel my ego to believe that I am successful. It wasn't until I discovered that I had broken the bank to find the illusion of success that was being sustained by my mirage of an ego that I woke up. The lustful thirst to possess more. Thank fully I woke to my senses before it was too late, and been on the quest for happiness. It has been a great journey to understand both. My journey is not over. I suspect neither is yours.

Success is about speeding up. Happiness is about slowing down. 

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I love you

How do you change the world?

How do you change the world?

I have struggled with this question my whole life. Till I asked myself a deeper question. Why do I want to change the world? So this is easily answered.. "For the better of course. " Well,  what's wrong with the world, my mind asked. I proceeded to make a list of all the things that were bad or evil such as global poverty, hunger, bigotry, prejudice, injustice, disease, death, anchovies etc. My heart chimed in and asked " Well what's right with the world?" I immediately started to make an even longer list that included love, friendship, beauty, charity, faith, nature ( oceans, mountains, flowers, forests, sand), animals, birds, ice cream, pizza, rain drops etc ( you get the idea). So then the question popped up again " So why do you want to change the world? It seems that there is a balance of good and bad in the world"

So with my fiery passion  extinguished I abandoned the idea that I had to change the world. Till one day a deeper question raised its head. " Why did I think that I HAD TO CHANGE THE WORLD?" Back to the drawing board. My ego chimed in with a barrage of suggestions that " I had great ideas, I knew the way, there was no way except my own". Sound familiar? Perhaps resembling a crazy misguided Sith apprentice that wanted to rule the galaxy? My heart thank fully responded with the voice of reason "It is everyones place to change the world and mine too, as I am part of the collective consciousness."

Phew. No more solitary pressure or insane Atlas feats to carry the world on my shoulders. Yet the universe asked me the above question once again a little later, but this time with a twist.
" HOW do I change the world?" Since I am not the only one transforming the planet, I realized that I don't have to change the world yet assist others in doing their part to change the world.

It is about terraforming consciousness. Yes I made that up. But it holds true. I cannot make an argument and scream, shout, and get angry to make people do anything. Heck I doubt if most pet owners can make their cat or dog do anything, why think that I can change anyone. We do not show people they are wrong. That basically means that my path is right and yours is wrong, so do it my way. Back to square one. SO I decided that my contribution to "changing the world" would be to show people another path. It is up to them to take it or create their own. My purpose is simply to show you that there IS another way. Your choice to take it. With enough mindful bread crumbs, the primrose path to love and is well on its way to terraforming the human consciousness. One person at a time. One moment at a time.

So how do I change the world? By showing you How YOU can change the world.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at, change.

The way to transform your world is in your hands.
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I love you

I want to be you

I want to be you.

The other day I was at the gym and I was watching the techniques of some very strong athletes and I jokingly told the coach " I want to be you." He laughed and said funny " I wanted to be you."  I was surprised, yet we both smiled and the encounter diffused. Yet the thought lingered. That is when it dawned on me, that we all want to be someone else when we see their achievements, their abilities, their looks, their financial situation, their social status and so on. Whether it is a friend, a family member, an acquaintance, someone we see in the social media or a magazine or wherever. We are constantly looking to "improve" ourselves by desiring to be someone or something else. Yet rarely is that ever achievable.

It is not until I accept my talents, my gifts, my abilities, my looks, my finances, my social status, my presence in the world, will I actually ever make a dent in anything I choose that I want to become. Owning my spot in the universe is the first step. You and I are here for a reason. It was not by accident that we came into being. We chose this life, which means we chose everything that this life would offer and also chose the reality that we are in. With this premise we can also choose to transform it by owning the reality that we have into what we want it to become. I cannot make a clay pot if I do not own any clay. I cannot sit on my couch and manifest a clay pot, without first owning a clay brick and then work on creating it into something different than a brick. I am not going to build a perfect pot ( I have no idea how to do pottery) yet with a few lessons, an instruction book , a potters wheel,  I will be well on my way to creating something similar. Practice makes perfect.

In order to want to be something different we have to be able to have the desire to change. People and situations trigger this desire within us and build us up to the precipice of trying to improve. When that happens we get the tools we need, in the forms of education, materials, vision, training etc. Once we realign with our sense of belonging and cord ourselves to the reality of vision, the illusion begins to dispel. Can everyone be a king or queen ? No. Because we have not yet owned who we are and what we are here for. Once acknowledged we realize our OWN path, our OWN purpose, unique from someone else's path and purpose. An advice given to me by my coach when I wanted to be like him :" Continue to improve your numbers not mine and you will get to where you want to go."

I want to be you? No. I want to be me and I thank you for helping realizing that.
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I love you 

Mind over matter

I am convinced that my body is solid and there is nothing else. I can feel it. I can sense the objects that it can touch and so I perceive them to be either solid, liquid or gas. The reaction that I get to my action of touching is a perception and my senses have been conditioned from birth to know that this is tangible and there is nothing nothing beyond it. What is physical is physical and it cannot be disputed says the mind. I stand upright and don't fall over the earth by an unseen force called gravity. I sense temperature even though I cannot see it, and feel either heat or cold. I can not see the wind yet I feel its effects. I also perceive what the unseen can effect like movement of the trees explaining the wind, or the burning of matchstick signifying heat from a flame or the the fall of leaf to depict gravity. I live in a world of senses and chained to them I can only perceive this and nothing more.... with my mind.

If I open my heart to something far greater I am rendered dumbfounded with what is out there beyond my 5 limiting senses. Intuition, wisdom, understanding, love. All are not constructs of the mind but perceptions with the sensing of the heart space, an infinitely more potent field. There are many energetic fields that surround us. Some call them auric fields. There is the physical field, mental field, emotional field, relationship field, and spiritual field. Each one extends out from the physical body and each one has different features of how we interact with our various environments such as other physical bodies, other peoples emotions, our relationships and our higher Self and spiritual realms. Simplified, When the fields are out of sync then things in our lives go out of sync and we succumb to disease, unhealthy relationships,  problems and troubles pop up, ailments, in essence our world turns upside down. Yet within these fields we carry the knowledge to fix them too. All our hopes, goals, dreams, purposes, ideas are all stemming like a light bulb radiating light from the center, we radiate all this from our heart space through our energetic fields.

All these fields bump in to everyone else's fields as well. If in frequency and harmonic the harmony occurs and we have similar ideas, we like each other, we understand and cooperate and share knowledge. When out of vibrational frequency the opposites happen. Imagine everyone wearing multicolored bubbles and roaming around bumping into one another. The further out from our heart space and body these fields can extend for miles. The more potent and energetic one is, the fields go even higher and farther. Ever sensed what a loved one is feeling and be correct right down to the penny and then pick up the phone and call them up, and you both are shocked at the exact conversation you both were sensing? Intuition? Sorta. That's energetic field transmission. You and that person are linked energetically. This happens when you open up your heart space. Ever had similar dreams and deja vue? Thats energetic and astral travel. Different story, but brought up here as it is still an energetic field issue.

Everything is energy. Everything is a wave. Everything is a spectrum. When we pause and stop to look at the wave the energy becomes solid and we see a physical form. If you don't look, then everyone returns back to energetic states and continues as flowing in their streams of consciousness, only to return back when needed for interaction with the physical dimension. Think of it like a river flowing smoothly and if you put your foot in the river you disrupt the flow. Or are you really adding to the flow? At which point ripples occur. That's you adding your unique energetic field to the flow of collective consciousness.

Healing of these energetic fields and boundaries is called energetic medicine. That is what I do. Your energy fields possess your identity, your purpose, your origins, your lifetimes, your future. Respect your energy and respect the energies of others.
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I love you

Cracking the Mirror

Cracking the mirror

As you travel through the day you see all sorts of aspects and qualities of humanity. Some you like, and some you don't. Some will attract you, some will repulse you. You see a beautiful person and you like seeing that, yet you see someone else who behaves badly, you are repelled by it. Why?

This is because of a concept known as  mirroring. Would it surprise you to learn that all human characteristics good or bad or ugly all exist within everyone and we choose to explore various qualities depending on the social or life situation that we are presented with at any given time. All of humanity exists within us and we exist within all of humanity. You see beauty only because there is beauty within you to witness, and if you see bad behavior for example arrogance, then there is an aspect of arrogance that exists within you. People are in our lives to allow us the opportunity to see ourselves in a different light and grow. Everyone is a mirror. It is your choice to see a magnificent reflection in each person or to see a convoluted distorted reflection in others while you yourself suffer from the same distorted qualities. It is hard to accept the negative nature of ourselves as we are held together by ego. Yet the more we embody the idea of the mirroring we become more aware of the qualities within us.

When this happens we discover something quite extraordinary. If there is something we like, then we in fact like it within and can expand that quality. If there is something we don't like then once we recognize it within we have the choice of evolving from it and changing. Play this game with yourself through the day noting likes and dislikes when you encounter various people. If you are concerned about the socially taboo idea of " judging someone" well you are right, you are judging, however you will soon discover that you are judging yourself.  Make the list and then explore it. I can help you with that. As you dissect it you will begin to "feel" some thing more. This feeling is a trigger. Exploring your triggers can be a lifetime chore or a lifetime adventure of self realization.

We love to comment or judge others. It's human nature. So why not practice on yourself. I mean what do you have to lose? What do you have to gain? Everything. Self empowerment.
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I love you