Positivity, its not what its cracked up to be.

Positivity, its not what it is cracked up to be.

I can live my life with complete positivity and be surrounded by only positive thoughts, words, and people. I can listen to positive music, and read positive comments all day long. I can have motivators push me in a positive way at the gym, at work, or even at home if it comes down to it. Yet in the end it will be temporary and non sustaining. It is great to try to even  motivate others and presumably if it works, it is always a fleeting transformation that is never permanent.

A positive mindset achieves a positive outcome, a negative mindset achieves a negative outcome. A balanced mindset achieves a balanced outcome. For all those negative nellies out there, that try to pull me down and whom I get exposed to daily, I have 3 choices of interaction and outcomes. Firstly, to join them and fall into a negative state of being. Secondly, avoid them. Yet this useless act really only postpones the dealing with negativity and allows for someone else to step into that role a little later. Thirdly, I can interact with a balanced mind and understand why am I triggered by that negativity and attracting that person in my life. I can spend the time to try to bring that person out of negativity, but that would be more time wasted and an effort in futility, as everyone is responsible for their own emotional state.

For all those positive motivators out there trying to inflict their sense of right on the world, it is in fact their own effort in justifying only positive thoughts and not recognizing the negative in their lives and so over compensate by trying to sway others to their thinking. I can choose to again respond to them in 3 ways. Firstly join them and become happy and do cartwheels in my head. Secondly avoid them, yet they will be replaced by yet another positive annoying person that then leads me to the notion that I must figure out why are they  in my lives. What is the universe  trying to teach me? Thirdly I can interact with a balanced mind and understand where is the deficiency of positivity in my life that needs to be balanced out.

Positive and negative words or actions stem from positive and negative thoughts, which originate in the opportunities that the universe provides and arises to show me the opposite that is needed to complete my life. I have learned that I  neither need positive motivators nor negative naysayers in my life, yet I need both. I mus spend the time recognizing the balance of the two in every situation as it relates to every moment, situation, and person. In doing so I can create a more fulfilling life, an on purpose life, and an empowered life.
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I love you

Finding balance

Have you ever noticed that your moods dictate your outcomes? When you are happy you seem to get tasks done more efficiently. If you are sad then every task is a monotonous chore. It is only when we are more stable with our emotions that life is more fluid and flows. What makes us happy is quite variable and equally so what drives us to becoming sad.

Yet it is when we are in the most balance that things feel more stable. Emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually the balance enables us to be more in control to create our realities of choice. When there is imbalance we are run by the choices of others who are more in relative balance. Higher frequency of balance gives way to lower frequency of balance. Such is the nature and order of balance.

This applies to many areas of life. Education. You may have noticed that the hierarchy of the more educated people control the lives  of the less educated. Finances. The greater the wealth of an individual the greater the influence they have over the less wealthy. Vocation. The more experience one has in a vocation, trumps the job of the less experienced. Physical. The more athletic and physically endowed are more likely to become the educators of the less athletic or physically fit. Spiritual. The more spiritually trained are the ones who are the teachers and guides for those who are perceived as less spiritually attained. Even in Relationships. The more influential one person is in the relationship ( whether it is parental or spousal or friendship or at employment ) the more likely they are dominating that relationship. This extends out into society too.

Yet out of St-ability ( stability) comes ability. The more stable we are in our moods and our emotions the greater the chance that our innate gifts are revealed. It is these divine abilities that will aide us to create the future of our choice and help shape the world. So the next time you get too excited or too depressed find a way to come back to center. Find the middle ground that will keep you on track and not off course.

My father once told me: " Never give away money when you are too happy and never write a letter when you are too sad" Makes sense. The fastest way to poverty is by emptying your purse through emotions and the fastest way to end a career or relationship is through writing a letter severing a relationship or agreeing to one.

The more StABLE the more ABLE !!
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I love you

Connection or attachment

It is important to discern the difference between connection and attachment. These words are used in the spoken language as if there were no different. Yet this is and can be furthest from the truth.

Connection stems from the heart through acts of love. This is sustaining and empowering. It extends the outward energy to another. There is no desire for it to be reciprocated yet usually is returned with the same affection. Such is the nature of love. The heart is able to transcend the depths of time and space and all wounds when a connection is made. It is not a longing as that is attachment. When there is no impatient desire to jump out and reach another person then the connection is free and flowing.

Attachment on the other hand is from the mind born of fear. This is an illusionary energy and can become destructive to both parties. It is a contingent energy. When love with conditions is extended out it becomes attachment. Attachment is disempowering while connection is empowering. Attachment  is the need and desire to hold on to another for fear of self loss. This stems from feelings of lack and self incompleteness. Clearly quite the contrary for connection where both members are complete and free to offer their abilities to the other without fear of being overpowered. They attract the energy of the other person as 2 poles of a magnet.

Unfortunately with attachment the poles of energies are able to switch and repel once the intentions are known or the fuse runs out. Attachment is not self sustaining, yet connection is. So the next time you decide and touch someone as yourself where is this feeling coming from. Mind full of fear ? Or heart full of love ? The more aware of yourself in all ways of life, the more likely you will desire a connection and not an attachment.

I choose to connect.
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I love you

You are the calm, not the storm

You are the calm, not the storm

Traveling is stressful. It is anxiety driven and a constant rushing of time. The painful security checks with apparel removal and the madness of everyone's heightened insecurities. The dashing to the departing flights, the exercise to run between terminals, the aromas of all the fast tracked restaurants all play a role in the experiences of traveling anywhere beyond the end of your driveway. Missing a connecting flight has also become quite common place in this day in age. This happened to me recently as I landed at an airport and despite my sprinting from terminal to terminal with a back pack and suitcase on my head I arrived 5 minutes prior to the plane having closed their doors and waved goodbye as I stood gasping and furious with the realization that I had missed the last flight out of the airport. I was directed to customer service with the hopes that I could get another flight that night, yet with the sinking feeling that I was staying overnight and looking to fly the following day. I met a service representative who was calmly directing each person to their overnight hotel stay and helping them to get to their destinations the following day.

I would not want this woman's job. Everyone on the other side of her counter was tired, hungry, frustrated, angry, disappointed and not where they were supposed to be. Yet despite their blatant tears, anger, loud words against the airline, she held her calm, her peace, and her poise and explained that there was nothing more that she could do to help them at that time except get them a night of rest at a hotel, transportation and get them on their next flight as soon as possible even though it was for the next day. She was a wall of balance. Nothing could shake her determination to help. She had limited resources to help with, but what was in her power was her ability to react. She didn't. People screamed, shouted, got upset, yet she very peacefully said " I understand you are upset but this is all that I can do for you right now." Sometimes that is all the person in front of you needs to hear. That they have been heard. This extinguishes the fire of reaction, versus fueling it with more action and reactionary cycles.

So often we are confronted with the negative flood of emotions of others, whether a family member, a friend, a stranger, a customer, a patient, a coworker and many others on our journeys. It is how we choose to react that can make or break our spirit at that moment. You and I do not need to be sucked into the vortex of anyone else's storm. Yet it is only through digging into your roots and keeping your "wall of calm" strong, that any situation can be resolved and healed. Grief, anger, hatred, frustration or belligerence can all be faced against your wall of calm.

Remember that you are stronger than anything that tries to uproot you. How you maintain that strength is up to you.
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I love you

Watching movies

Watching movies

Ever sit in front of the TV and be watching a show or a movie and realize that you do not want to watch it any more and change the channel? Whether the show was boring, scary, depressing, it was not worthy enough to stay viewing it. The same applies to the " movies of your life." Our lives are like movies on an enormous movie screen. If we step back for a second and pause we can see the screen and us as the observers as separate. Just like you, I too have been so involved in a movie that I felt I was one of the characters. This holds true in life as well. We are usually so busy and involved in our lives that we forget that it is essentially a movie playing out and we have the choice of changing the channel.

That relationship that did not work out that caused a divorce or break up. So often we will replay this "relationship movie" in our minds over and over again and become bitter, angry and never forgive the other person is one prime example. It is a choice to stay in that angry zone and watch the effects of that movie destroy other parts of our lives. The close person who passed away, do we ever let them go? Invariably not, as we hold on to the haunts of the memories and further depression and grief settle in and before we realize that we have been hurting far longer than the deceased would have liked. The co worker who spoke mean things to you, continues to go through an endless loop like a never ending TV series of hurt emotions in your head, holding you hostage to anger, vengeance, hatred. The financial situation that is difficult, plays out with thoughts, words, actions and the movie of financial strain reaches an epic performance of misery, guilt, and depression.

Life situations and events are all akin to the movies of your life playing on endless feedback loops based on our choices to stay hooked on to them. Just like in the movie theaters you can enjoy the show with popcorn and soda, we watch our life movies with hopes and fears. When we stream movies and tv shows directly to our viewing devices at home it is a frequency that is being transmitted and decoded for us to watch. Life is no different. It is an energetic frequency pattern that we interact with and co-create with and watch as it unfolds. We are literally plucking the airwaves and downloading the movie of our choice.

Yet it is also our choice to change the channel and change the show. We are fully capable in transforming our  experiences into the movies that we seek, the events and experiences we intend to explore. So the question really left to answer is how much do you wish to live an inspired and empowered life?

The remote control of your life is in your hands. Choose the channel wisely.
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I love you

Collective Consciousness

Collective consciousness

What is collective consciousness? It has been articulated by many authors and also explained as being a part of a collective unconscious. Apart from the individual consciousness it has been theorized that there lies an invisible field of knowledge and memories that surrounds the planet and is in fact even layered with ever higher degrees of knowledge.These are the sum total of all of living consciousness and embedded within it are the knowledge and memories of ancestors of all lifetimes. Think of it as a planetary Icloud where every aspect of consciousness is stored and accessible with the correct login. 

The animal and insect and plant kingdoms are well known for this behavior. Ants can build a perfect tunnel system without ever having learned to do so and draw upon experiences and memories and instinctively do it. If their queen ant dies and even if  she is not physically present anywhere near them, they immediately stop working. Mice can be trained to navigate a maze. Their offspring can do the same having never learned it, as they draw upon the memories.

We too have memories that are transmitted genetically from our ancestors and with each generation we draw upon the experiences of prior generations and so do not have to reinvent the wheel. We stand on the shoulders of others who have already found a way and so expand our awareness in the present moment and forward generational knowledge into wisdom and not waste time. This is an efficient evolutionary model. My own children having never been exposed to technology such as the babysitter TV or ipad when they were much younger, are able to quite effortlessly navigate through smartphones, and tablets now that they are a little older, and without any instruction I might add. 

We draw upon experiences and "traits" from the collective. Which inherently means that we share the traits of everyone regardless of whether they are good or bad. If you look at the most saintly person or the most heinous person who has ever lived you will find traits that you share with them. Every trait has been described at some level of intensity and expressed in some fashion and so we draw upon these from the collective consciousness. We also are acutely aware of which traits to exhibit and which ones to hide for the evolution of our own lives. We also draw upon the memories and experiences through the unconscious to help with our functionality. We do not have to re experience what it felt like to be chased by a charging wild animal to now instead see this unfolding and move away or hide, without having to experience the countless times our ancestors have been killed by a charging wild animal. Many great discoveries in the world by scientists have occurred almost at the same time at opposite ends of the world, and  having never had the discoverers communicate with each other. Drawing from the future knowledge perhaps?

We are pinpoint expressions of all experiences past, present and future as we choose from the collective consciousness of what to express, what to learn, what to understand and return it back to the collective for sharing and shaping the future. The uniqueness of the experiences comes through the uniqueness of each of us despite the shared memory or trait and so it evolves into a new experience and nuggets of wisdom that are catalogued by each of us through our minds, bodies, and hearts in the infinite forms of creativity and expression.

You are every trait, and every trait is you, welcome to the collective.
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I love you

The Truth about You

The Truth about You

We have been convinced that we are damaged goods from a very young age.

Whether it is by our caretakers in the form of unkind words or actions because surely we were to blame for their mean thoughts  and harsh actions. Or due to relationships long ago that resulted in break ups when we were informed that it was "our fault" that things did not work out. When friends abandoned us, and enemies rained hatred to our hearts, to the point of breaking our minds, we were certain that it was alas our own doing that destroyed everything around us.

The bitter stories play out like endless loops in our psyche and we continue to berate ourselves to the very depths of guilt and anguish. So great have been the dramas that have unfolded that we believe them to be truer than our senses. In the end we lie with our empty veins that once held our life blood that now has boiled away with despair and the once tearful eyes know only parched deserts. Our minds have been shattered, our hearts defeated and our bodies worn from the fight of self identity.

It is through the dawn of realization that the light appears to heal our wounds and in the midst a discovery is made. Not just that a clap requires two hands and all the blame cannot be shouldered by one person alone. Not that the insecurity and anger of another against us is not all our doing. Not even that we cannot take responsibility for the war that wages within our lost beloved. Through the darkness the sliver of sentient light of wisdom arrives not a moment too soon to the remains of a heart devoured by the vultures of a tortured life. The words echo in the gallows of self loathing and self hatred. Like a saving hand outreached for the taking,  I hear " You are not broken and need no fixing."

Remember my dear love that out of a great mess there exists you, a greatness.
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I love you