The Truth about You

The Truth about You

We have been convinced that we are damaged goods from a very young age.

Whether it is by our caretakers in the form of unkind words or actions because surely we were to blame for their mean thoughts  and harsh actions. Or due to relationships long ago that resulted in break ups when we were informed that it was "our fault" that things did not work out. When friends abandoned us, and enemies rained hatred to our hearts, to the point of breaking our minds, we were certain that it was alas our own doing that destroyed everything around us.

The bitter stories play out like endless loops in our psyche and we continue to berate ourselves to the very depths of guilt and anguish. So great have been the dramas that have unfolded that we believe them to be truer than our senses. In the end we lie with our empty veins that once held our life blood that now has boiled away with despair and the once tearful eyes know only parched deserts. Our minds have been shattered, our hearts defeated and our bodies worn from the fight of self identity.

It is through the dawn of realization that the light appears to heal our wounds and in the midst a discovery is made. Not just that a clap requires two hands and all the blame cannot be shouldered by one person alone. Not that the insecurity and anger of another against us is not all our doing. Not even that we cannot take responsibility for the war that wages within our lost beloved. Through the darkness the sliver of sentient light of wisdom arrives not a moment too soon to the remains of a heart devoured by the vultures of a tortured life. The words echo in the gallows of self loathing and self hatred. Like a saving hand outreached for the taking,  I hear " You are not broken and need no fixing."

Remember my dear love that out of a great mess there exists you, a greatness.
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I love you 

Questions and answers

Questions and answers

In moments of fear and doubt I look to the heavens for answers. With hands folded or with suffering  faces planted deep into my sweaty anxious palms,  the questions are asked. What, where, when, why, who and how. This is how I start the spiraling down of questions ad infinitum. Yet little did I realize that that it is not the questions that will lead me to the answers. Moreover, it is the answers that are already consciously and unconsciously within me that will reveal the correct questions. I was once told by a friend that it is quality of the questions that will help me improve my life. True. So I started asking these questions. It helped to move forward and understand my choices. I finally came to the epiphany that I should work on this exercise backwards and see the result to explain the choices that I HAD made already to see if these were clear enough questions and answers.

We ask questions to solve the puzzle of love for example. Unfortunately we are asking the questions to derive at the answer that is already known within, it simply needs to be teased out to our conscious state. Most of the time the questions we ask are esoteric and valueless and so these questions from a chaotic imbalanced mind will seldom or perhaps never branch out to the correct questions that are needed to empower your life. So in the case of love.

The answer is LOVE. The questions are WHAT to love, WHERE to offer love, WHEN to offer love, WHY to love someone, WHOM to love, HOW to love. Knowing the answer will lead to even more powerful questions that now stem to another answer that is also known. LOVE EVERYONE ( whom), EVERY TIME ( when), EVERYWHERE (where), LOVING someone means you love yourself ( why)  and so LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY ( this answers the what and how).

The next time you have a 1000 questions on a topic, meditate upon the answer first with out the questions and then with that answer in your minds eye, ask the right questions as above, and you will derive the choices that you need to make to move forward. Try it out with small things and then work it up to bigger concerns in your life. Questions are the tugs of war in your mind, the answers are the already known solutions within your spirit.

Got a question ? Ask your heart for the answers.
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I love you 

When you compare you despair

When you compare you despair

Much of my life I have set myself up to be compared to the bench mark of others. Always compared to others to gain a value of self worth. Compared to other more intellectual kids in school, or other fellow athletes or fellow musicians. Never quite good enough, never quite up to par. Yet whom am I really comparing myself to? Someone else who is just as scared at being compared to someone else as I am to them. Where is the yard stick to measure success, fitness, ethics? Who creates these false measuring tools, and why  are they important? Society creates them, as if you don't have bench marks and notches of success how do you create status? If you have to create status then you create control. If every one is forced into a hierarchy and given their place on the ladder, then I can bench mark my progress in all areas of life from health, to wealth, to intellect to literally everything in my life. It starts when you are young. Conditioning. If you see a little child that is unaware of this process they are totally free and believe everyone is on equal footing and lovable and respected. The moment you introduce " you are better than ...... because of ( fitness, intellectual prowess, parental status etc.) you change the innocence to status and put them on the racing ladder.

No one is saying that we shouldn't have hierarchies. They are important and we need to be able to grow and so the yardstick is formed.  Yet my argument is on the tenant that the yardstick is within and not outside. I choose to excel in my intellect by my choice and not be coaxed by others, I choose to improve my fitness performance for my health status and not to be measured against the world's fastest or strongest man or by a fellow athlete. I choose to improve my financial perch for the sake of serving others and my family,  not because I have been told that if I don't I will not be like my  friend who makes more money than me.

Compare and establish levels of progress, absolutely, but compare to yourself and not to others as this leads to the despair of inadequacy and depression and frustration. Push yourself everyday to become better than who you were the day before. Improve for yourself and not because someone told you that you should be like whomever. Self identity is the biggest motivator in improvement and success.

The world has changed and ascended to a higher dimensional frequency of Oneness. You will find more and more as you awaken that there is less and less need for you to size yourself up to anybody else except yourself. As you continue to improve and become better, your own prowess will be enough to shine and be a beacon unto others to also become more radiant with success and join you in the sun. Lack of comparing will not diminish your abilities to progress, yet it will lighten you up to achieve more as you improve upon yourself every moment of every day.

Be the best version of you and not the shadow of someone else.
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I love you

Success and happiness

Success is getting what you want. 

Happiness is wanting what you get.

Let that sink in for a bit. The mind will always forget the trials and tribulations that you have undergone yet the heart will always remember the feeling of those trials and tribulations. That is the difference between happiness and success.

Success is a notion that is determined by the mind through conditioning by peers and society. Yet true success is seldom achieved if not linked to happiness. They are not mutually exclusive yet only are so depending on how they are obtained. There are not many successful people in any walks of life that are truly happy. This is because their perceived happiness is based solely on the " getting " of what " the mind wanted." You can have all the money in the world to buy everything you have ever wanted, yet this still will not give you joy or peace. Yet on the corollary, you can have nothing and yet be content and happy, as whatever you wanted no matter how basic the desire you get it. 

This is clearly evident in those that continue to get more and more of what they must have or want based on their notion of societal status and position and bragging rights. This is founded by ego. The more they get, the more they want, the more they get what they want the bar standard rises to the next level. The ladder continues up and up with getting what you want and calling it a successful trip. However if you spend the entire time in successful pursuits and missing out on the simplest of things like a hello to a stranger, smelling a flower's fragrance, holding your child in your arms at bedtime, meeting a friend, spending time someone you love, what is the point of getting what you want. Now if the about wants are things that you get, well that is called happiness.

Most successful people have neither the time nor the inclination to slow down long enough to smell the flower or recall the hugs from the children. If you read their biographies, they are filled with "successful stories" but its not what they achieved that you should read, yet what they have omitted to mention, that is to be read. The simplistic things that bring you happiness. They never note that in their books. this does not mean we should give up our ambitions, dreams or goals or careers. Far from it. In fact do more, achieve more, strive more. Yet there will be a time when, you yourself will feel the push for wanting more, and it wont be for success, it will be for happiness. And so the cycle restarts. 

I have been on both sides of this spectrum. I have been fortunate. I have literally bought everything I can think of for hobbies, and useless trophies of apparent success in an effort to fuel my ego to believe that I am successful. It wasn't until I discovered that I had broken the bank to find the illusion of success that was being sustained by my mirage of an ego that I woke up. The lustful thirst to possess more. Thank fully I woke to my senses before it was too late, and been on the quest for happiness. It has been a great journey to understand both. My journey is not over. I suspect neither is yours.

Success is about speeding up. Happiness is about slowing down. 

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I love you