I dont know

I don't know

I have heard this phrase countless times with always a sense of frustration, yet I myself use it often. When I ask someone a question and their response is " I don't know" it aggravates me. So I analyzed why am I irritated or frustrated  or even perturbed by it. Perhaps it is more that I was indecisive in that area of question and so I was handing over my power to make my decision over to someone else, and when they could not give me direction, I was feeling unsettled. Yet " I don't know" is very grounding. It take a lot to hold the ego at bay to shrug your shoulders and repeat these words. It takes a lot to hold back the shame to admit " I don't know." The ego wants us to give an answer that may not be true as ego always want to be right and be first to respond and be in a state of pride, yet the shame does not want to give the answer that may be true due to lack of confidence, or courage. Both play important roles in keeping our conversations flowing and our minds in motion.

Yet when we say " I don't know" a genuine state of balance emerges. Neither ego nor shame have a say. One might say with confirmation " I don't know"  where this is a genuine lack of knowledge. Perhaps. Yet to admit it, takes confidence to be correct ( ego and shame together in harmonic balance). It is powerfully humbling to make this statement of " I don't know" as it centers and re-equilibrates the  mind with the heart to allow a more focused and true response later on. It is the pause between decisions and the connection between the beginning and the end of a conversation or idea.

Never be too proud to admit " I don't know" and never be too ashamed to state " I don't know." In the end these four little words can stave off a bad decision if you are inclined like me to open my mouth first and later check what came out !!

Where do we go from here? Honestly, I don't know.
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I love you (of that I am certain)

Gratitude journal

Having gratitude is one of the single most empowering act I can perform. I am a firm believer in adopting a habit of writing in a gratitude journal. I cannot be grateful for the big things in life if I am  not grateful for the smallest things that happen daily in my life.

(Small Excerpt from my gratitude journal)

I am thankful for this universe
I am thankful for this galaxy with all its stars and planets
I am thankful for this solar system for our planets
I am thankful for our sun that provides light, energy, nourishment.
I am thankful for this planet.
I am thankful for this country
I am thankful for this state
I am thankful for this county
I am thankful for this city/town
I am thankful for this neighbor hood
I am thankful for the neighbors I have around me
I am thankful for the house we live in
I am thankful for the functional fridge for it stores food
I am thankful for the functional dishwasher as it washes dishes
I am thankful for the functional stove to make food
I am thankful for the running clean water in the home
I am thankful for the electricity in the home
I am thankful for the functional cars that help us go to different places
I am thankful for the furniture I have
I am thankful for all the functioning appliances and possessions
I am thankful for the bed i sleep in
I am thankful for my wife and kids
I am thankful my parents
I am thankful for my extended family
I am thankful for my functioning healthy body
I am thankful for my eyes for they can see, and I have beautiful things to see
I am thankful for my ears for they can hear, and I have beautiful things to hear
I am thankful for my nose for it can smell and I have aromatous things to smell
I am thankful for my tongue for it can taste and I have delicious foods to taste
I am thankful for my skin for it can protect and touch, and I have things to touch
I am thankful for all my well functioning organs
I am thankful for limbs
I am thankful for my bones, muscles, tissues, ligaments
I am thankful for my blood
I am thankful for my DNA
I am thankful for my brain
I am thankful for my intellect
I am thankful for my many gifts
I am thankful for the ability to help others
I am thankful for the opportunities that come my way
I am thankful for being a healer
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It is very easy to complain about anything around us, yet by becoming grateful or thankful we restore balance to our mind, heart, body, consciousness, and spirit
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I love you 

Remaking yourself

We are constantly rebuilding ourselves. Day in and day out. Every idea that breaks our thought patterns is there to challenge us to rethink our life, and our place in it. Any new teachings or experiences that we encounter may either break our foundations or become the ingredients to rebuild it stronger.

I have encounter this on numerous times throughout my life, through readings, teachers and explorations of new experiences that will cause me to rethink and reshape my foundations and ideas and afford me the opportunity to rebuild anew. When paradigms shift so the energetics. The body not the mind is the filter to our soul when new experiences are encountered. I try to always ask my body before I make a decision whether it is as simple as going to the gym, or picking a meal to eat, or more complicated life decisions. For centuries we have called this our gut instinct, but there is truth to this. When I hear about someone else's experiences my mind wants to make it mine, or if I am told to do something, it is my body that feels the "pressure" to do it. Yet a simple pause and quiet query to my body will get the answer to either do or do not.

It is very important in this high speed digital age of social media and connectivity to be able to slow down for a few seconds and take control of the situation. Who is running the show? The mind filters the senses and stimulations and keeps most to process through or dreams, yet the body is constantly also bombarded with the energetics of others and the shifts of experiences. The more healthy and tuned the  body becomes, the more aware we aware of our choices and circumstances. The more self aware the better choices we make for better futures.

We should never be afraid to re create our foundations and grow them stronger each day with the evolution through experiences and teachings. We are constantly rebuilding, re sculpting, and reshaping ourselves.

You are remaking yourself into the image of YOUR CHOICE.

You are beautiful the way you are each day.
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I love you

Lessons from Vines

Lessons from Vines

No garden or landscape is ever completely free of the ever present vines. They grow quickly and can take over entire lands in short periods of time. They are hard to destroy and keep at bay. Yet nature is a great teacher and affords us an important lesson. The significance of vines metaphorically has a great impact in our lives and if heeded  early can help us tremendously. Vines are very tenacious and each branch or tendril shoots off ever more of its self and becomes quite invasive in any garden. They strangle the vegetation and kill it without mercy. Trees, bushes, plants, vegetables all are equal opportunity for the destruction by these vines.

Vines represent the problematic issues  of life that effect anyone and everyone regardless of rank or status in life. They teach us the draining nature of time and effort that is spent dealing with these issues. When dealing with worldly arduous problems they seem to literally choke the life out of us on our spiritual journey and restrict and hinder our progress. Social media, news, politics are notorious for fueling distractions that keep us from our inner sacred path. We get wrapped up in these issues much like the vines and the entanglement can be difficult to extricate. We usually require outside help with this endeavor to help us sever from these issues. Vines can leave scars on their victims such as trees, and so these global distractions do the same to our psyche.

No matter how many good seeds we have planted in our landscape of garden of our minds, and hearts, these pesky vines of problems can make short work to all the fruit of our labors. Even one small vine can grow to create havoc, much like how one small negative problem can take root and upset a well balanced mind and heart that is full of blossoming love. They do not distinguish whether the delicate or the hardy plants are to be effected, and so too is the case with global socioeconomic and geopolitical climates when transmitted through news, media and idle gossip.

Not all vines are bad to the plants. Such as the example of poison ivy that hurts us but not the wild vegetation like trees. It keeps us away. In doing so, the distractions in our lives that are restricting and mind numbingly strangulating us, also serve a purpose to ground. If our path is all spiritual then we live in a high or euphoria or fantasy perceptions without getting grounded back into reality. The pause from constant spiritual bombardment allows us the time to regroup and gather our "whys" that set us on a path of enlightenment.

Lastly how do you get rid of vines. You have to get to the source. Find out what, why, how, where and when for all these troubles, see the bigger picture, and extricate our selves from the problematic negative distractions. Sever the root of the vine of life and you stand a chance at evolutionary success.
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I love you

Where does your self worth come from?

Where does your worth come from?

I have struggled with this conundrum for many a decade. Part of the problem is the understanding of the question. Self worth vs outward material worth. I think both are connected. Our material worth is inherently linked to our self worth. The greater the appreciation for self worth, the greater the material worth we create. We attract more outward to the inward when we are content and ready to receive. This state of being is a natural state when we become balanced.

Yet it is also a state that requires definition when our heart and immortal spirit are filtered through a manifested mind. Worth is itself formless. As deep as any ocean it remains constantly in motion and difficult to grasp when we observe it from the point of view of the mind. Yet when felt within the heart it appears with fortitude and passion.

Self worth is as unique as our fingerprint. It is an individualized quality that is ever present. It accompanies our psyche and molds to external stimuli if not paid attention to. If we are given praise, our self worth appears to rise. If we are berated, our self worth deflates. True self worth does not rise and fall with the tide or the waves of other peoples emotions or life's circumstances.

Self worth is created in the heart that mines the dreams and sculpts the hopes into realities. The greater the self worth, the increased likelihood of a successful career, relationships, and opportunities. Self worth emboldens self empowerment. It all starts with defining ourselves. Who are we? and What place do we have in the world?

Each of us deserve to be here. Each of us deserve to be heard. Each of us can make a difference.

You are worthy.
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I love you

View from the camera

The view through the camera.

There are times when it feels that life has not presented to me what I had believed I wanted out of it. After all, why did my thoughts not manifest the reality of my choice, like all the self help books foretell? I have agonized over this question till I understood the use of the camera. Allow me to share an idea with you.

Looking at a beautiful landscape and desiring it to be mine is akin to viewing the landscape and capturing a snap shot of it with a camera and taking it home. The landscape is the dream, the camera the mind. It requires careful observation through a view finder, and then focusing with a lens. Adjusting the aperture, the sensitivity, the shutter speed and with a steady hand taking the shot of what I want to capture. Same is with the concept of manifestation of reality.

First to be able to view the landscape requires letting go of the judgement, the prejudices and the delusions that surround the idea in order to dream unencumbered.   These are blinders to the eyes of the soul represented by the lens cap that needs removing before any image can be taken. The power of the thought then is the idea of what that dream represents. The view finder is the vision of that dream image as it still is not tangible, till I start focusing with the use of my lens. By adding the knowledge of balance and love, I modify the settings and focus of my image that is held in the heart. I must be either patient to capture the image or quick enough and this means that I must play with the shutter speed of my mind. With the correct words of intention I get ready for the shot.

With the pressing of the button I engage the power of action. The steady hand is faith  is the trust in myself and the universe that my dreams will come to pass and I will get to capture the idea. Reality then manifests when I print out my picture. Framing the picture is the success I would feel having obtaining the sought after dream.

In this way the power of thought, word, action, and focus of vision are able to create some of the most stunning photography of my life. Try it, you may be surprised that your life already has manifested your dreams in various avenues. Just because it does not match up to a fantasy does not mean that the universe did not grant your idea, request or dream.

Empower yourself, you already have a camera, and it works just fine.
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I love you

Failure is not an option

Failure is not an option, it is a choice.

When we are led to an option it is a thing, or fixed concept. When we are led to make a decision it is a choice. And so what ever path we are presented before us is an option. Which path we take however is a choice. In doing so we accept the consequences of all that will elate us or befall us.

Failure is no different. When we lament on the failure and pretend that we did not "want" this option, we are deluding ourselves. When we plead ignorance of the choice, we are simply declaring that we did not spend the requisite time to look at all the advantages and disadvantages of the option.

So when we are faced with failures of marriages or relationships, or a  job or career or a financial opportunity, or many such events in life, it is not luck or disgrace or abandonment or depression that is the cause. These are just byproducts of the disadvantages of the option that was chosen. If we look at the advantages of the same option no matter how bad it may appear, we realize that we simply did not see all the vantage points of that option before choosing.

Failure is not a bad thing, even though given a terrible connotation. Failure serves the purpose of making us look at all the options again. Start at ground zero. Relook at our flight plan. Pause, reflect, re-decide. The beautiful thing about the universe is that it will always afford the chance at re-choosing the option. Failure means accepting the vulnerability. Failure means not just getting up off the ground, but instead stepping forward with another choice.

If we have never experienced failure, then we have not lived.
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I love you

Lessons from weeds

Lessons from weeds

I recently have had an explosion of weeds in my garden, unlike other years I have been able to stay on top of them, till recently they have become overpowering. So I stopped to ask nature for an explanation and reference of what the weeds in my landscape of life signify so that I may learn from them.

Weeds are like negative thoughts that are constantly blooming. These thoughts are an annoyance of time and energy. They compete for the life of my mind's landscape as they do  for my attention, as if to cry out " I am more important than all your other thoughts."  Negative thoughts and fears run wild like these weeds and can sour any mood. Aesthetically these weeds are not nice to observe by others and so too these harmful invading thoughts are unsightly on my frowned angry face.

Weeds or bad thoughts grow with the emotional waters brought by the rain storms of fear and anxiety or through the lack of drainage of anger and envy. These weeds rest deep into the soil of my mind and then grow. Weeds are also brought in by animals or other people or media in the form of waste, by virtue of gossip and idle chatter and slanderous untruths. Weeds can come from neighboring sources , or rather the conversations with people I may meet along the way. My landscapes or gardens of creativity are over wrought with these weeds of invasion.

Weeds take in the light of my energy and my emotional waters  grow and spread like wildfire. The only sure way to clear up weeds is preventing them from growing. I can try to burn them all out with anger, yet I risk the damage to nearby good shrubbery that hold healthy truths of my heart. I must stop the gossip and chatter with the weed chemicals and prevent further germination. I can cover up my landscapes with tarps of love to prevent further growth. Plucking the weeds is time consuming and can be fraught with challenge, yet this too must be done, as buried deep are the seeds of negative deeds.

Once clear, I shall plant healthy plants of truth and allow my lawn of life and landscapes of creativity to flourish.
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I love you

Do you know your digital twin?

Do you know your Digital Twin?

It has been an amazing journey of innovation meets personality over the last 20 years where we have seen tremendous advances in the world of  information technology. What once was the paper medical record in the doctors office that contained detailed health information under lock and key only in the physicians office, is now electronically imbedded in some ambiguous cloud box in the internet. With ever growing vast sums of information about you being  accumulated with each visit to a hospital or office visit or lab test that is now attached to your identification. In a snap shot most of everything about your mind and body is computed and stored. This is what I like to call your inner digital twin.

Now enter social media with cookies and gps tracking all your shopping, eating and traveling and personal interests and habits. Once again this compilation of data creates another part of your digital twin. We continue to post our inner fantasies that become realities for common interest, perhaps adulation, or even sharing of knowledge. Many times " innocent" and yet smart tracking systems devised to" help" us get more access to shopping, eatery or other options that work faster, are adopted  in the name of convenience.

Our cars, our phones, or kitchen accessories like fridges and coffee makers, learn our choices very carefully. Gadgets like Fitbits, Iwatch, running apps and devices, automatic BP machines and countless others that continue to assimilate the most personal of information about our pulse, oxygen use, sleeping habits, respiratory status, health conditioning, gait, walking or running styles, and numerous other parameters. These together are the building blocks of our digital twin. In the virtual world with new gaming technology we can virtually play, communicate and compete with others without ever leaving the comfort of our own home.

With the advent of new biometric recognition such as fingerprint, retinal scan, personal key codes, and facial recognition algorithms we surrender every part of our most intimate uniqueness and unload it to the digital twin that is waiting to be born. Unknowingly it has already been birthed as artificial intelligence such as the new smartphones that can tell what mood you are in when you look at the screen. In doing so, a host of choices can be presented to you based on prior data of who you are mentally, physically, spiritually and so on. The smart phones are your supercomputers to access the entire world, much more than ever being a real phone. Texting, emailing, use of chat apps are the norm of instant communication instead of picking up the phone and talking to another human. Are you even sure that you are communicating with another human when you text or are you getting their digital twin?

Have you noticed like I have that you are constantly being bombarded by the same advertisements of sellable items that you may have expressed a fleeting interest at one point yet now it is being hinted at you constantly in the side columns of your email, pandora, web browsing screens? I wonder how much of coercion my Digital twin is applying on me to bend to its will?

This is the age that we live in, with both benefits and drawbacks of all that has been created. The big questions that really need to be asked are who controls the digital twin? Do you? or do the profiteering marketeers ?  Or are you controlled by your digital twin and are unaware that most things in your life are being dictated by your twin in the name of convenience?

Does your digital twin love you?
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I love you

matters of the soul

I have been asked what is the difference between the soul, the body and you. 

My answer is fairly simple. You are the soul,and you have a body. This body is not you, and yet you are the driver of the mortal frame. It is your vehicle to interact within a manifest universe. Ethereal to solid. 

You as the soul are interfacing with this reality through this physical body and all its senses  in this realm at this particular time to fulfill a task or purpose. This is known as an experience. 

Your body is a finely tuned machine, that holds all knowledge within the cells as part of DNA. The key is to access that knowledge and apply it. This is known as wisdom. When you listen to your body and its various energy centers you access this wisdom. 

The mind in its executive centers remain logical and task oriented, and is able to see things with a clearer and  more objective perspective. When we are in our emotional centers in the brain, we are polarized and do not see things for what they are,  but as we want or wish them to be, regardless of whether it is scary or blissful, good or bad. 

Listen to your body, it will guide you. When the pressures of ideas of others or your own, or the stress to act or not to act based on the voice of others or your own can all be filtered through the body. These stressors are what makes us either speak or act irrationally or impulsively. 

Follow your soul's voice for it knows the way. 

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I love you

Blame

Blame
For the longest time I have been subservient to my anger, and to my envy. This has led me to blame others when events in my life did not go according to my plans. After all I was blameless. This was my defense mechanism and my way of coping with hardships and missed opportunities. This was an arduous journey.

When I began to blame myself for the issues at hand, I discovered that my journey had begun to shorten. With more accountability  and  responsibility for my thoughts, words and actions I felt more empowered, and determined to fix what I believed to have been broken goals and out of reach dreams.

It was only until I blamed no one for any event, circumstance or situation, that I realized that on my journey, I had already arrived. Everything that had happened to me was simply gearing me up for a learning experience. It was my ego that defined it as good or bad. By labeling it with a perspective I stayed chained to the definition of elation or defeat.

When I transcended labeling and the blaming of others and myself, I was able to see a hidden balance and order of things that expressed itself as love. We all undertake a journey of self discovery and sometimes travel far off course to find it. Yet sometimes the journey is not about finding a path or even knowing that you are on a path. It is a about the realization that the path is you and you are the path in this moment of now.

Be inspired to live blame free, it is a wonderful thing.
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I love you

Story time

Story time

I settle in for the night and pick up a book to read. My mind begins to wander. I nestle into the book with more focus and turn the pages. Yet my mind continues to remind me of affairs of the day, events of the week, ills of my life. The attempts at concentration are just that. Attempts. No matter how hard I try the thoughts becomes louder voices echoing in my mind of missed opportunities, failed misadventures, and painful memories. I close my eyes to block out the intruders, to no avail. I begin to breath heavy, and my heart pounds faster. The sweat on my brow appears as if I have walked through the rain. I drop my book. I know that my predicaments are self made. The cycle must be broken or I risk it to continue at my peril. 

I must regain control. And so I begin to meditate. In the middle of the storm of mental gunfire, the only one who can take control of both sides of the war that is waging within is me. I do this with my breathing. The only thing that goes with me at all times and with every pulse. I quickly access this tool, and begin to breath deep, long and hard. I shift the gear and the pace, to slow it down and breathe deep and long, and then breathe slower and more naturally. My pulse has returned to its original beat, having been derailed by my mind. My thoughts once again begin their tireless task of upsetting my attempt to regain control. Yet the anger begins to subside as does the fear of my stories written into my psyche throughout my life. 

With deeper and deeper breaths I let go of all that ails me with love. I offer love to every facet of hardship and every aspect of failure that I have encountered. The howling winds of my thoughts have died down to a gentle breeze. The torrent of emotion has remained now but a gentle lap on the shores of my mind. I open my eyes to a new wisdom and I brew a new balance into my life. I need not read a book for distraction tonight to put me to sleep , as I welcome the visitor of rest within my heart, mind, body and soul. The visitor brings peace as I no longer hold onto the stories of my life. 

Moral of the story. We are keenly aware of the stories of our lives that continue to play out night after night, day after day like the magnificent shows on Broadway. Exactly the same, each show cannot be distinguished from its prior event. So too the drama of our lives of misadventures, banter of relationships, unexpected circumstances all play like endless stories, page after page, moment after moment, year after year, life time after lifetime. The time to stop reliving the drama and putting the book down is now. We have the ability to do just this at any point in our lives. 

Are you brave enough to drop your story? Are you even braver to share your story with others?
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I love you

To be loved

When I have been wronged by someone it is so easy to judge, get  bitter, and become unforgiving. All I know is how I feel.  The anger, the hurt and the desire of revenge all become an amalgam of uncontrolled emotions,  a weapon wielded by an unsteady mind. Most of what people do are a reaction to something from their past. An experience that has conditioned them. Their reaction towards us becomes an outlet of process.

But what if we desired to meet them to understand their past, not to eventually hurt them in revenge but to love them so they themselves hurt no more. If they no longer hurt they can no longer hurt. Yet in order for this to happen I must first look beyond my initial reaction to their action and pause long enough to understand their past. I am merely a brunt of their frustrations and not a cause of it. Realizing they cause necessitates looking at their past.

Yet who really has the time to delve into a person's past? If your goal is to help and not be hurt, then at the very least for the sake of self preservation, this becomes a vital and integral tool. Allowing their past to breathe back into the present unfolds the anger and hurt and transforms it into love by simply hearing it.

Now what if this was done for you. Someone taking the time to understand your past to show you that you can and need to be loved and not hated. Would you react in anger towards them or would you turn your rage into gratitude ? We are not defined by our pasts, we are defined by what we do with our pasts.

Healing comes from loving the past and not by punishing ourselves for it. We all deserve to be loved.
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I love you

Appearances

Appearances

There are times when we make profound judgments based on appearances. Whether it is the color of our skin, or quality of clothes, or the way we speak or even as simple as our hair or the lack there of. I find myself also falling into biases from decades of conditioning yet letting go of many prejudices as I pause to reflect. Let us pick a simple one that is so common that we almost take for granted yet subconsciously will have preprogrammed judgments.

Hair. The color of hair seems to tell us a lot about a person's personality. The more exotic the color the more outward their personality. The greater chance that they are risk takers or do not seem to care for societal norms. Yet that would be completely incorrect as there are plenty of exotic spectrum colored haired individuals who could be rebelling their own inner worlds and are not as outgoing as you may think.

What does grey hair signify?

Age, wisdom,  experience are all synonymous with grey hair and totally normal. Some get  grey hair sooner than others. Yet how do we judge men versus women with grey hair. Differently. A man who has grey hair is revered as having wisdom and experience and treated with higher status than a great haired woman. A man is expected to have reached the pinnacle of his career and the sign for that may be grey hair. Yet a women can have grey hair and be subliminally thought of as an old crone whose days are numbered. Studies demonstrate that going grey ages women twice as men.

These lead to a tremendous number of observations that we make and how we treat someone becomes apparent. Men who turn grey are deemed "silver foxes" A term of obscure successful rank and status. Grey haired women are considered to have been worn out, and past their prime usefulness in society as we deem their responsibility of bearing children is over. And so the more grey haired they are, the more aged and so no longer "valuable " contributors to society. Yet we forget that this may have negative influences. Confidence, self worth and employment are all factors that are influenced negatively in older women. Their chances of finding a meaningful relationship partner becomes harder too, based on these ridiculous subjective ideas.

Yet when a man looks at a grey haired women they may see "age" yet what they are really seeing is themselves becoming older, even though they may already be older. It's a perception. Studies reveal that greater than 70% of women start to dye their hair within at least a year of seeing a grey hair. This mounts to considerably large expenses of time and finances spent in covering up a normal aging truth.

Pigment cells in our hair follicles die and then naturally the hair will have less melanin and thereby lose their coloring, ergo leaving the hair strand grey, silver, or white. This can occur at ANY age. So for the simple normal process of loss of melanin, we create such a great issue and judgment that effects women profoundly in every aspect. I am guilty of having these thoughts without a doubt. Yet once aware of my  thoughts the less likely I am of recurrently falling into the trap of them.

You may be turning grey. You look marvelous.

I may have lost my hair. I look marvelous. But that is another topic of discussion
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I love you

Finding your wonders of the world

Finding your wonders of the world

There will always be a time where the landscape of your mind is barren. Ideas may come and go yet nothing suits your fancy. The days, weeks, years may roll by. You may even feel dejected, bored, frustrated, depressed at the lack of creation. You may feel that rumors have been started about you foretelling  that you have not mounted to anything, or are not creative enough, or are not good enough or perhaps not worthy enough. These are all idle chatter of the winds across the desert of your mind carrying messages of doom.

Yet fear not. An illusion will soon become a reality. A dream born of the fires of passion of your  heart burns bright and lights the night sky. The oasis is nearer than you think as you traverse the parch-ness of your life. You had to walk those lonely nights. You had to feel your dreams unfulfilled. You had to yearn for your purposes to come to pass. It is this lack that fuels your need to achieve more. Achieve big.

As your life may lie as a plain untouched canvas as it does to an artist, the spark of creativity and wisdom blend into a  beautiful pictorial with a plethora of colors of inspiration in all walks of your life. Let go of the anxiety of performing on life's stage and just be. Be yourself and let that creativity flow. It is time to build the future of your dreams with fervor and love.

You have the gift of mastery of your reality. Choose what ever your heart desires and explore the possibilities. Your only barrier is the self limiting beliefs infesting your mind. Yet understand that this is also part the creative process, as if you did not have these beliefs, you would continually create and eventually burn out. These long pauses are much needed, in fact are essential to help you breathe life into your purpose and creation.

The magic is inside you. It always has been.
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I love you

Positivity, its not what its cracked up to be.

Positivity, its not what it is cracked up to be.

I can live my life with complete positivity and be surrounded by only positive thoughts, words, and people. I can listen to positive music, and read positive comments all day long. I can have motivators push me in a positive way at the gym, at work, or even at home if it comes down to it. Yet in the end it will be temporary and non sustaining. It is great to try to even  motivate others and presumably if it works, it is always a fleeting transformation that is never permanent.

A positive mindset achieves a positive outcome, a negative mindset achieves a negative outcome. A balanced mindset achieves a balanced outcome. For all those negative nellies out there, that try to pull me down and whom I get exposed to daily, I have 3 choices of interaction and outcomes. Firstly, to join them and fall into a negative state of being. Secondly, avoid them. Yet this useless act really only postpones the dealing with negativity and allows for someone else to step into that role a little later. Thirdly, I can interact with a balanced mind and understand why am I triggered by that negativity and attracting that person in my life. I can spend the time to try to bring that person out of negativity, but that would be more time wasted and an effort in futility, as everyone is responsible for their own emotional state.

For all those positive motivators out there trying to inflict their sense of right on the world, it is in fact their own effort in justifying only positive thoughts and not recognizing the negative in their lives and so over compensate by trying to sway others to their thinking. I can choose to again respond to them in 3 ways. Firstly join them and become happy and do cartwheels in my head. Secondly avoid them, yet they will be replaced by yet another positive annoying person that then leads me to the notion that I must figure out why are they  in my lives. What is the universe  trying to teach me? Thirdly I can interact with a balanced mind and understand where is the deficiency of positivity in my life that needs to be balanced out.

Positive and negative words or actions stem from positive and negative thoughts, which originate in the opportunities that the universe provides and arises to show me the opposite that is needed to complete my life. I have learned that I  neither need positive motivators nor negative naysayers in my life, yet I need both. I mus spend the time recognizing the balance of the two in every situation as it relates to every moment, situation, and person. In doing so I can create a more fulfilling life, an on purpose life, and an empowered life.
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I love you

Finding balance

Have you ever noticed that your moods dictate your outcomes? When you are happy you seem to get tasks done more efficiently. If you are sad then every task is a monotonous chore. It is only when we are more stable with our emotions that life is more fluid and flows. What makes us happy is quite variable and equally so what drives us to becoming sad.

Yet it is when we are in the most balance that things feel more stable. Emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually the balance enables us to be more in control to create our realities of choice. When there is imbalance we are run by the choices of others who are more in relative balance. Higher frequency of balance gives way to lower frequency of balance. Such is the nature and order of balance.

This applies to many areas of life. Education. You may have noticed that the hierarchy of the more educated people control the lives  of the less educated. Finances. The greater the wealth of an individual the greater the influence they have over the less wealthy. Vocation. The more experience one has in a vocation, trumps the job of the less experienced. Physical. The more athletic and physically endowed are more likely to become the educators of the less athletic or physically fit. Spiritual. The more spiritually trained are the ones who are the teachers and guides for those who are perceived as less spiritually attained. Even in Relationships. The more influential one person is in the relationship ( whether it is parental or spousal or friendship or at employment ) the more likely they are dominating that relationship. This extends out into society too.

Yet out of St-ability ( stability) comes ability. The more stable we are in our moods and our emotions the greater the chance that our innate gifts are revealed. It is these divine abilities that will aide us to create the future of our choice and help shape the world. So the next time you get too excited or too depressed find a way to come back to center. Find the middle ground that will keep you on track and not off course.

My father once told me: " Never give away money when you are too happy and never write a letter when you are too sad" Makes sense. The fastest way to poverty is by emptying your purse through emotions and the fastest way to end a career or relationship is through writing a letter severing a relationship or agreeing to one.

The more StABLE the more ABLE !!
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I love you

Connection or attachment

It is important to discern the difference between connection and attachment. These words are used in the spoken language as if there were no different. Yet this is and can be furthest from the truth.

Connection stems from the heart through acts of love. This is sustaining and empowering. It extends the outward energy to another. There is no desire for it to be reciprocated yet usually is returned with the same affection. Such is the nature of love. The heart is able to transcend the depths of time and space and all wounds when a connection is made. It is not a longing as that is attachment. When there is no impatient desire to jump out and reach another person then the connection is free and flowing.

Attachment on the other hand is from the mind born of fear. This is an illusionary energy and can become destructive to both parties. It is a contingent energy. When love with conditions is extended out it becomes attachment. Attachment is disempowering while connection is empowering. Attachment  is the need and desire to hold on to another for fear of self loss. This stems from feelings of lack and self incompleteness. Clearly quite the contrary for connection where both members are complete and free to offer their abilities to the other without fear of being overpowered. They attract the energy of the other person as 2 poles of a magnet.

Unfortunately with attachment the poles of energies are able to switch and repel once the intentions are known or the fuse runs out. Attachment is not self sustaining, yet connection is. So the next time you decide and touch someone as yourself where is this feeling coming from. Mind full of fear ? Or heart full of love ? The more aware of yourself in all ways of life, the more likely you will desire a connection and not an attachment.

I choose to connect.
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I love you

You are the calm, not the storm

You are the calm, not the storm

Traveling is stressful. It is anxiety driven and a constant rushing of time. The painful security checks with apparel removal and the madness of everyone's heightened insecurities. The dashing to the departing flights, the exercise to run between terminals, the aromas of all the fast tracked restaurants all play a role in the experiences of traveling anywhere beyond the end of your driveway. Missing a connecting flight has also become quite common place in this day in age. This happened to me recently as I landed at an airport and despite my sprinting from terminal to terminal with a back pack and suitcase on my head I arrived 5 minutes prior to the plane having closed their doors and waved goodbye as I stood gasping and furious with the realization that I had missed the last flight out of the airport. I was directed to customer service with the hopes that I could get another flight that night, yet with the sinking feeling that I was staying overnight and looking to fly the following day. I met a service representative who was calmly directing each person to their overnight hotel stay and helping them to get to their destinations the following day.

I would not want this woman's job. Everyone on the other side of her counter was tired, hungry, frustrated, angry, disappointed and not where they were supposed to be. Yet despite their blatant tears, anger, loud words against the airline, she held her calm, her peace, and her poise and explained that there was nothing more that she could do to help them at that time except get them a night of rest at a hotel, transportation and get them on their next flight as soon as possible even though it was for the next day. She was a wall of balance. Nothing could shake her determination to help. She had limited resources to help with, but what was in her power was her ability to react. She didn't. People screamed, shouted, got upset, yet she very peacefully said " I understand you are upset but this is all that I can do for you right now." Sometimes that is all the person in front of you needs to hear. That they have been heard. This extinguishes the fire of reaction, versus fueling it with more action and reactionary cycles.

So often we are confronted with the negative flood of emotions of others, whether a family member, a friend, a stranger, a customer, a patient, a coworker and many others on our journeys. It is how we choose to react that can make or break our spirit at that moment. You and I do not need to be sucked into the vortex of anyone else's storm. Yet it is only through digging into your roots and keeping your "wall of calm" strong, that any situation can be resolved and healed. Grief, anger, hatred, frustration or belligerence can all be faced against your wall of calm.

Remember that you are stronger than anything that tries to uproot you. How you maintain that strength is up to you.
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I love you

Watching movies

Watching movies

Ever sit in front of the TV and be watching a show or a movie and realize that you do not want to watch it any more and change the channel? Whether the show was boring, scary, depressing, it was not worthy enough to stay viewing it. The same applies to the " movies of your life." Our lives are like movies on an enormous movie screen. If we step back for a second and pause we can see the screen and us as the observers as separate. Just like you, I too have been so involved in a movie that I felt I was one of the characters. This holds true in life as well. We are usually so busy and involved in our lives that we forget that it is essentially a movie playing out and we have the choice of changing the channel.

That relationship that did not work out that caused a divorce or break up. So often we will replay this "relationship movie" in our minds over and over again and become bitter, angry and never forgive the other person is one prime example. It is a choice to stay in that angry zone and watch the effects of that movie destroy other parts of our lives. The close person who passed away, do we ever let them go? Invariably not, as we hold on to the haunts of the memories and further depression and grief settle in and before we realize that we have been hurting far longer than the deceased would have liked. The co worker who spoke mean things to you, continues to go through an endless loop like a never ending TV series of hurt emotions in your head, holding you hostage to anger, vengeance, hatred. The financial situation that is difficult, plays out with thoughts, words, actions and the movie of financial strain reaches an epic performance of misery, guilt, and depression.

Life situations and events are all akin to the movies of your life playing on endless feedback loops based on our choices to stay hooked on to them. Just like in the movie theaters you can enjoy the show with popcorn and soda, we watch our life movies with hopes and fears. When we stream movies and tv shows directly to our viewing devices at home it is a frequency that is being transmitted and decoded for us to watch. Life is no different. It is an energetic frequency pattern that we interact with and co-create with and watch as it unfolds. We are literally plucking the airwaves and downloading the movie of our choice.

Yet it is also our choice to change the channel and change the show. We are fully capable in transforming our  experiences into the movies that we seek, the events and experiences we intend to explore. So the question really left to answer is how much do you wish to live an inspired and empowered life?

The remote control of your life is in your hands. Choose the channel wisely.
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